How do you deal with people ?
October 23rd, 2009 | by admin |who give you dirty looks and you can hear them say "she doesn’t look disabled to me". This just happened to me at Walmart – and I didn’t know what to do or even if I should do anything. My disability is "hidden"- Congestive heart failure, coronary artery disease, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease just to name a few. I asked the DMV about a placard, they gave me the form for my doctor to fill out, and I DO qualify – class III or IV heart failure. Should I have said something – and if so — what. I don’t abuse my placard – I only go into stores that have a place to rest once I get in there and spread out through the store. If they don’t, I have to wait for my son to go with me, and when he goes in, I don’t park in the handicapped spots. He is disabled, (mental illness) but not physically. He can walk without any problems, so I don’t park there.
Don’t worry about it and don’t feel "guilty". Many people have "hidden" disabilities, that doesn’t make them any less debilitating.
Kill them with kindness, smile!
10 Responses to “How do you deal with people ?”
By Michelleyy<3 on Oct 23, 2009 | Reply
people these days are very mean and rude, if they don’t understand that someone has a problem..then thats her problem. ya cant pay attention to people like that because it only gets you upset. do wut ya gotta do, and dont pay attention to anything else.
good luck !
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By Muschi on Oct 24, 2009 | Reply
Don’t worry about it and don’t feel "guilty". Many people have "hidden" disabilities, that doesn’t make them any less debilitating.
Kill them with kindness, smile!
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By chiliswoman on Oct 24, 2009 | Reply
Just ignore them. Will you ever see them again? Just do what you know you are entitled to do without apology.
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By Stephanie Z on Oct 24, 2009 | Reply
Well my aunt has one of those cards. She is arthritic in her hands, so she got the card. She can walk just fine like anyone else, so she really doesn’t need it.
I think you should only be able to get it for CERTAIN conditions.
Not saying you shouldn’t have it, cuz I don’t know anything about your condition.
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By chris1h23 on Oct 24, 2009 | Reply
Here is the problem…Since you heard what they said..why didnt you speak up and tell them you have heart problem,,I hear this all the time from people that don’t look handicapped…Speak up…
I am not trying to be mean…But we as a society don’t speak up for ourselves…
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By Shelley on Oct 24, 2009 | Reply
someone made a similar comment about me parking in disabled parking not that long ago. I over heard and turned to them and said. " Why Thank you, my prosthetic leg has been bothering me all week so it means a lot that you don’t think I look disabled."
It shut them up pretty quick .
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By princesskls25 on Oct 24, 2009 | Reply
I think you’d have to ignore it, and if they get in your face explain to them that the DMV and your doctor approved you.
If I were to finally get my lincense I would probably need a placard, and an adapted car. I don’t use a wheelchair or any other walking aid but I have mild CP, an LD, and a speech impediment and at two of those problems caused me to fail my test 3x and I never received my lincense.
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By AskCookieMonster ANYTHING!!! on Oct 24, 2009 | Reply
patiently explain that, "Just because you don’t see me drooling, in a wheelchair, or something similar doesn’t mean that I don’t have a disability."
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21 year old man living his life on the PDD Autism Spectrum: Asperger’s syndrome, aka High-Functioning Autism
By Cоиvєяѕє Cяazч on Oct 24, 2009 | Reply
They are just selfish, and absolutely rude. I am hard of hearing, and most of the time, when I get to sit right at the front of the classroom, or when I never have to say anything or answer questions, people point at me like I am some kind of weirdo. But really, they have NO idea what it’s like. I wanna able to hear people from a distance, and to be able to just fit in with other hearing people, but unfortunately, does not work like that. The best thing to do is ignore them, their loss, just imagine, if they was you, and you did that to them, I bet you they’d be so damn ashamed. x
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By wkemrer on Oct 24, 2009 | Reply
Why do you feel you need to be justified by people who do not understand,have someone close to them in a simular situation or know of someone who is going throught something like you or are afraid that it could happen to them.
You shouldn’t even care how people re-act it’s in our nature.I am disabled and people look at me since I don’t look disabled and guess what I look at others too because I am human and when things don’t add up or look different I look.Just like I would look at plane in the sky.
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